"I feel that my parents want me to target the mention very well since my older sister had it, but this pressure weighs on me," says Simon in terminal S. Like him, you hardly contain your stress. So, if you need more than you manage that of your parents, it's too much to ask you ! On the one hand, you would give everything to be proud of yourself, but on the other hand, this insistence tends to undermine your self-confidence. Your parents may think you can not graduate! Otherwise why are they so often on your back? Here are some tips to keep relationships calm,
1. Make your voice heard
Months that you think with apprehension! And the ferry is now! To release some of the pressure, some prefer to talk about them. Others, on the contrary, retreat into their bubble. If you belong to the second category, it is better to announce the color right away to avoid unnecessary tension at home. Explain to your parents why you prefer to stay discreet. They too have been there, they will certainly understand. "It's already very painful to have to deal with my worries, so if I have to wear my parents, I do not give a lot of my results to the baccalaureate, I love my parents, but I refuse to let myself be polluted by their bad waves, " says Canelle
A little empathy does not hurt. Think of your parents who are certainly as many nodes in the brain as you approach exams. Reassure them. For example, you can detail their program from day to day. This will help you prioritize your thinking to optimize your revisions! The advantage? They will eventually let you go a little if they see you taking your revisions seriously.
3. Be pragmatic
Rather than having to repeat the same info several times (with stress, they tend to lose your memory!), Print out the program of your exam week in black and white, with all schedules and locations. Then hang it in a place often used by your parents in the house: above the flush, next to their bed, on the fridge, etc. An unstoppable trick to avoid them asking you the same questions every day: "What time is your exam tomorrow, what is the test already, how long is it?", Etc. "
4. Put them to contribution
Having parents involved in your studies, it's still good. Your little brother is not available to hold your cards while you read them again? Ask your parents to ask you about your accounting knowledge. You are not safe that they give you some more anecdotes. What to shine on your copy! Why not play a game with them to work on your memory ... and theirs (Vade retro Alzheimer!).
5. Make it your allies
Juliette, in ES, sees no reason not to put her parents in her pocket: "They trust me, and I know I can count on them to reassure me when I'm stressed." Parents: psychological support but also material. It is still more comfortable not to have to think of stewardship when you are immersed in his books: the breakfast that awaits you in the morning; the lunch box that your mother has tenderly prepared for you; dinner that balm your heart ... who other than your parents spoil you just when you need it most . Is it worth an SMS at the end of the tests to reassure them, right?
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