After 12 years of marriage, Donald Trump Jr. and his wife Vanessa have filed for divorce. Offering speculation that divorce was in the works, the New York Post reported that the couple has been living separate lives for some time. The paper credited much of the problem to the fact that Donald Jr. travels frequently. “He’s never there,” said an unnamed source.
And when he’s not, it’s often because he’s traveling on behalf of his family’s company, working on behalf of his father, or otherwise saying or doing something in support of his dad. Which is a whole other way of making a spouse feel alone. Marriages in which one half of the couple is so engaged—emotionally, financially—in a parent’s life can leave the other partner feeling neglected. She might experience concerns about loyalty. Do I, or our family, ever come first? Or will his dad always win?
Add to that a very public life—where you’re forced to look at your marriage, and your partner, through millions of eyes, rather than just your own—and the pressures can be too much for a couple to overcome.
Although President Trump’s daughter Ivanka has assumed the most politically significant role among the president’s four children, Donald Jr. has been arguably the most high-profile. Along with his brother Eric he took over management of the Trump Organization after their father was elected. He regularly defends his father’s administration in int
Donald Jr. and Vanessa’s relationship was not necessarily built on privacy; the couple famously reenacted their engagement in a New Jersey mall in exchange for a free ring from Bailey Banks & Biddle. Later, Donald Jr. appeared as one of his father’s advisors on TV shows The Apprentice and Celebrity Apprentice. But politics offers a very different sort of spotlight, one that Vanessa might not have embraced, perhaps especially as her father in law’s administration became even more divisive and her husband’s defense of him became even more aggressive.
In January, Donald Jr. got into a Twitter war (that many said he lost) with MSNBC commentator Joy-Ann Reid. Other recent posts included lashes out at both Hillary Clinton and musician Jay Z during an appearance at the Grammy Awards, a post linking antidepressants to mass murder, and another “liking” a tweet attacking a teen survivor of the Stoneman Douglas High School shooting. At Halloween, he tweeted that he was going to take half of his daughter’s candy because he wrote, “it’s never too early to teach her about socialism.”
At some point, it seems, Vanessa sought to gently disas
Now, she’s seeking to more publicly, and less gently, disassociate. She and Donald Jr. have five children, so she’ll never be fully out of the Trump family spotlight. But nearly 15 years after being introduced to her future husband by her future father-in-law, she’s clearly stopped wondering if she’ll ever be first in the eyes of Donald Jr. As rumors circulate both that he has been unfaithful and that special counsel Robert Mueller will question Donald Jr. regarding his conversations with WikiLeaks and with Russians during the 2016 election, she may even be embracing the fact that she’s not. Can you blame her?
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