Running a business can be stressful enough. Add to that a partner, children and family. Plus, you may have a 9-5 too or if you're full-time self-employed you may have found yourself in the feast or famine cycle. Even if you have consistent clients and money each month, then there’s social media, marketing and creating new, fresh content.
We can end up spinning in our wheels. I’m not trying to be a Debbie Downer. Far from it.
I want you to take a deep breath, put the kettle on and switch everything else off as you read the rest of this…
Self love = Success
And I’m not just talking soaks in the baths and early nights (although I do highly recommend them).
I’m talking about building a strong relationship with YOURSELF.
Unless you’re bringing in a lot of automated passive income, your business needs YOU.
And one of the best ways to ensure you (and your business) remain healthy, consistent and on top form is to invest time in YOURSELF.
I know, I know. You’re wondering how the hell you’ll fit all that into your schedule too. But hear me out.
Self-Love means you:
1) Put yourself (and your business!) first regularly.
Rather than bottom of the pile.
Even the airlines tell us, we have to put our own oxygen mask on first. When we practise self-love putting ourselves first becomes easier. You’ll start to see that putting your own needs before your partner, children, parents actually serves them better in the long-run.
Okay, I’m not talking ALL the time or neglecting your kids. I just mean that you make it clear that you and your business have needs as well. After all, your business’ success may well be the family ticket to financial freedom. You’ll be able to send your kids to the best schools, pay for incredible holidays and experiences together and even enable your partner to retire early. This doesn’t happen overnight and it certainly won’t happen if you always drop everything and rush to their needs.
Do what you need to do. Hire a cleaner. Hire a babysitter. Get a nanny one day a week. Explain to your partner what your BIG vision is and that you'll be unavailable. Create a space for you to work with the least distraction possible.
And don’t just work! Self-care for you and your business means having time to switch off too.
2) Allow yourself to dream BIG!
When you practise self-love it means you simultaneously build your self-belief and confidence muscles. They go hand in hand and act like a team.
Self-love enables you to not just KNOW that your business dreams are possible but you’ll actually take strides to make them happen!
3) Set clear boundaries & speak up
Following on from the last two points: make sure when you say yes you aren’t saying no to yourself.
Don’t feel you have to take on extra work or clients that are less than ideal. The more you do this, the less you’ll have time and space for your YESES and your dream clients.
Keep practising saying what you mean. Let your yeses be yeses and nos be nos.
As one of my coaches always says: "If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no!"
Ask yourself: is this in alignment with my dream lifestyle and business vision?
4) Make better business decisions
The more we practise self-love the more we're drawn to doing things that give us headspace. The more you do this the more creative you’ll be. The more amazing ideas you’ll get to serve your clients and bring in income.
When we have a strong relationship with ourselves we listen to our gut instinct. We are less likely to do things just because others in our industry are. We become more authentic. We allow ourselves to be guided by what’s true to us.
And that means you…
5) Stand out in your industry
The more you practise self-love the more you accept and embrace all your quirks and what makes you unique. This means you'll happily show up in a way that shows you're different to everyone else and you will stand out.
You'll create a brand that is a true reflection of YOU. It sounds simple but honestly - allowing yourself to choose the colours, styles, clothes, fonts, website, images that reflect YOU is a game changer in business. You will shine like a lighthouse to your ideal clients.
It becomes easier to create content too because you’re being YOU and you know your message.
6) Understand that you’re not for everyone
“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”― Dita Von Teese
There will always be someone (either a stranger trolling online or even a so-called friend) who'll make a comment about you and your business.
The more self-love you have, the less this will knock you. You’ll grow a thicker skin and any comments will just be like water off a duck’s back.
Consequently, putting yourself out there on social media won’t feel as scary because you know you’re coming from a place of service and if some people don’t get it, that’s just them.
7) Make time for your health and life-balance
Self-love means you won’t spend every waking hour working. It means you’ll be more compassionate with yourself. You’re not a robot! Don’t expect yourself to be.
If you get no sleep, eat at your desk and don’t get any exercise and fresh are (not to mention fun!) this will not serve you or your business in any way.
The more you practise self-love the more you’ll start to take better care of yourself. It will become a habit.
And remember: self-love means you’ll want to do more of what you LOVE which will include spending quality time with your loved one.
See – I told you this was a win-win for your children, partner, family and friends!
So, next time you find yourself burning the candle at both ends, stop and ask yourself what YOU want and need and then give it to yourself guilt-free.
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